picking up where this gifset left off, James is seducing Lara, as himself. She was having trouble getting distracted by the other people in the room (as this is a porn shoot) so James’ solution was to put a pillow over their heads (it worked).
Shhhhhh. Shhhhhh. Hold tight, baby girl. Hold tight to Daddy. Look Him in the eyes.
Now listen, this is Daddy’s, and you are Daddy’s and everything you feel belongs to Him. That is so he can keep you safe and keep you happy and keep you feeling all the things you are sometimes afraid to feel. Stroking you in the trickling tremble between your legs lets you know that He can release the unresistable abandon that spreads through you, and the sharp jolt of His firm hand on your yielding flesh lets you know that He is strong enough to make it safe to surrender to that abandon.
I’m always afraid people will see this and think, see, all that misogynistic treatment has broken her down and now she is traumatized and deeply upset. More often than not, the tears are described by subs as a cathartic release, like receiving the news that a loved one will be cured of disease instead of dying. That is the kind of tears that are usually shed in the case of a crying session. She is not upset, she is letting herself go on a tied of emotion, which ebbs and flows in her, and which was brought to the surface by literally stimulating the surface.
The top’s responsibility is not to tell her,”I’m sorry baby, its ok, please don’t cry ”, it is to tell her, “that’s it baby, let it all out, you cry as hard as you need to”
The top’s responsibility is also to keep a look out for the other kind of crying, and they are expected to know the difference, and act accordingly.
That release is so powerful. What’s even more powerful, is the fact that ANYTIME I’m upset, Sir always tells me that it is safe to cry with him. Whether we are in a scene, or I’ve just had a rough day, Sir makes me safe and loved and not ashamed to let my emotions out. I am so grateful for that.
this may be my most favorite post the entire bdsm community has ever produced, commentary and all.
This is simply perfect…. those that know me know i have a crying fetish…. THIS is what i mean…. this is where you have climbed over those walls and you bare your soul… her crying is perfect and his reaction is perfect… *sigh*
Crying will never stop being one of my favorite things about D/s. I can never resist reblogging a good crying post.